Monday, November 26, 2012

Trust

Trust is the most important part in a relationship. It can really make or break a relationship. Here's 9 steps I found, thanks wikiHow, on "How to Build Trust in a Relationship":
  1. Be predictable. A lot of people believe that mixing things up makes a great relationship. In other words, always planning something new to surprise the other. First, although surprises are nice from time to time, stability and uniformity will strengthen, and are far more important in a relationship. Uniformity sounds boring, and we would all like some surprise in our life, but you need to be predictable to make things work in the long run. Predictability builds trust.
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    Be Reliable. Trust is just another way of saying you can rely on someone. You trust your partner to do certain things no matter what at all times. This trust builds security in a relationship. The same thing is true when you are able to depend on all the other things that happen in a relationship to be just as reliable.
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    Mean what you say. Your partner can read your face better than anyone else. If you are lying, or trying to hide some true feeling by not quite saying all that is on your mind, they will be able to tell. They might even think you are cheating, which can tear down the trust in your relationship. When they know they can trust whatever comes out of your mouth without hesitation, then you are building a bond that can be unshakable.
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    Have faith in your partner's capabilities. In other words, if you believe at all that they are not competent in some things, or all things they do, your trust in them will not be solid. If this is the case, you need to be up front with them on the issues in an honest and loving manner. This will allow you to work through this and keep the trust with each other.
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    Be up front with each other. Don't keep anything hidden, nothing should be privileged and kept from the other. You have to know that sooner or later all things come to light, and the consequences of not being completely truthful will kill the trust, and ruin your relationship.
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    Don't be reluctant to share your desires with each other. Too many people never let their partners know what they need. Don't let your partner wonder, or try to guess what they should do for you. It is essential this happens with both partners. If only one partner is being catered to by the other, there is a chance one will feel smothered, or the other might feel neglected. Either scenario is not good.
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    Be willing to say no. It is ok to listen to your partner needs, and try to fulfil them, but sometimes it's just as valuable to say no. You can't do everything all the time, and you will actually earn some respect when you refuse to do something once in a while. Taking a stand, and imposing your own will, can actually enhance the trust between you.
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    Consistently try to expand your relationship. There will always be reasons for growth. Through good times and bad, you must always be willing to stand tall and face all trials. When we listen to each other, even if the things you are hearing might hurt your feelings, you must face them in order to strengthen your relationship. If you don't do this, like a vine without water, your relationship will wither and die.
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    Trust your partner! How can your partner trust you when you don't trust them? Having trust takes two people, and without one person building trust too, it's like a fish without water.

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